The DoveLewis Pet Loss Blog

Enid Traisman

Enid Traisman, certified grief counselor & Director of the DoveLewis Pet Loss Support Program, shares her insight to help others navigate the grief of losing a beloved pet. Grieving for a loved pet is a natural, normal and personal process. Because they touched our lives so deeply they are deserving of our grief. Learn tips and tools for healing.


Durban: A Pet Loss Story


The following pet loss story was sent to DoveLewis Pet Loss SUpport Director Enid Traisman from Laura Wolf Port. Please feel free to submit your own pet loss story here.

My beloved dog Durban died on December 23 and I am unbelievably devastated. Durban was a border collie basset hound mix- imagine a border collie with adorable short little legs (not a day passed when someone didn’t comment or chuckle at him!).  I rescued him 11.5 years ago from a group in Connecticut that would send a truck down to Kentucky every two weeks and load it with dogs to save them from euthanasia. I was 23... Read More >

01/19/15 | 0 Comments | Post a Comment | Viewed 24 times.


Ellie Boland: A Pet Loss Story


The following pet loss story was sent to DoveLeewis Pet Loss Support Director Enid Traisman from Mary Beth Boland. Please feel free to submit your own pet loss story here.

Ellie Boland
May 3, 2002 - November 15, 2014

My best friend is gone. Although I’ve known for a very long time this day would come, these are some of the hardest words I’ve ever had to write.

Ellie was a birthday gift. I was working in a pet store, back before most people knew how bad that was. She arrived on a truck with a bunch of other puppies from Missouri. She was sick and she was terrified and my boss nearly... Read More >

01/02/15 | 0 Comments | Post a Comment | Viewed 45 times.


Handling the Holidays


For many of us, the easiest and most rewarding thing in life on earth is to love and be loved by our animal companions. And it is the hardest and most excruciating sadness when we must say goodbye. I know from my experience as a grief counselor, that this sadness will not be with you permanently. Trust me when I assure you that you will heal from your grief. You will also grow from it. But, there are a lot of triggers during the holidays that bring your grief to the surface. Remember, the grief you feel is a reflection of the love you shared, it is a normal, necessary and healthy... Read More >

12/22/14 | 4 Comments | Post a Comment | Viewed 1751 times.


Celebrating the Holidays Without Your Companion Animal

“Happy holidays!” That’s the greeting we hear often during this time of year. But if you are grieving the loss of your pet, you may be feeling some apprehension. After all, how does one celebrate the holidays when a loved one is so sorely missed?

Normal questions you may be asking yourself include: How can I make it through all the events of the holidays while missing so desperately the one I love? Would I be better off to ignore the holidays this year? Should I act as if everything is normal? Should I make major changes in my holiday rituals?

As explored in a Pet Talk article on... Read More >

12/10/14 | 2 Comments | Post a Comment | Viewed 23887 times.


Kodiak Sokol: A Pet Loss Story

The following pet loss story was sent to DoveLewis Pet Loss Support Director Enid Traisman from Chris Sokol. Please feel free to submit your own pet loss story here.

An Ode to A gentle giant
There are no words to describe the grief
Of losing a dog who filled your heart
The sun rises on another day.
And a hole in my heart cannot be filled.
Going about the rhythms of the day,
And then comes the rush of memories all over again.
The pain does not stop, only my breath.
How I would give anything to have him back.
And not under the ground so deep.
His lifeless body lies still.
When just... Read More >

12/15/14 | 0 Comments | Post a Comment | Viewed 70 times.